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I need my daughters support and involvementdue to both mental illness and health issues abd i have no support i need her to get involved and to be by my side.

mommala started this conversation
Jan 28, 2008

I have made many serious bad choices in my life without giving any thought to what the outcome might be. Having come from adult children as parents  having no knowledge of the values that positive in-put and good learning habits have threw out ones life especially how to save money, spending wisely, and learnig various ways of saving and varios ways to earn interest.To make a long story short; I have a twenty-six year old daughter whom I need to find maybe 1 or 2 hours bi-weekly as well as sit in on therapy sessions with me; this bipolar and mental illness as well as dual addicted is hereitary, only she can stop the chain! No matter how I try to explain when the moods drastically change it is not the use off drugs or alcohol , but my disorder mimics alot of the behavior. I have some other health problems the most serious is a dislocated jaw as well as a mass (tumor) said to be benin, and due to the loss of teeth and the distortion of my face an speeech as well as effecting my over all health I stay isolated.My life show, to beable to smile and great people is what makes me feel good.

I need to find a physician that handles TMJ and various effectsuch as mine to put me and my life back together before it is to late. I am fifty-six and need to complete school , get my degree so I can do what Our Lord Jesus wants me to do!

Please if anyone out there knows of some one good, kind and has empathy for others , please help me!

Stay in touch and may God Always Bless and be with you.

 

 

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ekikaseven
Jan 29, 2008

My Dear,

(1) You CANNOT change another person. 

(2) Family does NOT always listen to family. Someone else can tell her the EXACT same thing that you  have been telling her and it will 'sink in'.  However, when we tell family members stuff, to them it will sound like 'mumbo jumbo'.

WHAT CAN YOU DO? 

 Leave your daughter ALONE and do not nag her.  Rather, instead pray & FAST for her.  Somethings, especially addiction issues will break by prayer & fasting ONLY.  Prayer alone often does NOT work.

Also, the best thing you can do for your daughter (and yourself) is: BE THE EXAMPLE.

Concentate on getting YOUR life together.  When she see how your life has changed for the positive, that will be the best teacher for her.  That will make her take notice more so than anything else.

HOW DO YOU GET YOUR LIFE TOGETHER?

(1) Get you some counseling.

(2) FAST & pray for God to deliver you from your addictions.  Get your church, prayer lines, prayer groups to pray for you as well.

(3) If you are not already into a 'faith-speaking/word teaching church', then get into one. 

(4) Go to AA, NA, CA (or whatever the issue is) meetings.  Go to as many as you can.  Get a SPONSOR.

(5) Find someone to teach you how to use money wisely.  There are many books and TV programs out there. These are only a few: Dave Ramsey, Suze Orman & David Bach.  If you would like to email me, contact me, and I can teach you.

Best wishes

 

 

 

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